"Woman Wanted"

Wanted.
A woman who enjoys to play
And I'm talking about actual games.
A woman who takes pride in her body
But not to be confused with conceit.
A lady who can put others needs first
But never diminish her own worth.
A female who's friends help her grow
The type of friends I'd like to get to know.
Wanted.
A woman who sometimes likes to go out and dress up
But knows she doesn't always have to wear make up.
A lady who's just that in the streets
But quite the opposite between the sheets
Or on the kitchen counter even the bathroom floor
Wanted: my cherie amour.
A woman who's strength is rooted in humility
Who knows to get what you want you don't always have to be pushy
But it's not to say she'd be a walking mat
Cause I couldn't get down with a lady like that.
Who could make me not want to eat out again
Cause she had some mean home cooking.
Who when she walks by she knows people stare
And pretends to be completely unaware.
Smart, sexy, sweet, sophisticated
A combination of things from ladies I've already dated.
Now this is not to say that I won't compromise,
Wait. No, I won't - sorry for that lie.
A lady who loves laughing together
But when sharing my dreams, she'd laugh never.
A woman to one day be the mother of my kids
Who knows that in life, sometimes it is what it is.
A lady to continually call me to be undaunted
This is my ad, "Woman Wanted."

By Mark Sparks
http://www.MarkSparks.com

You Are Not What You Appear To Be.

A beautiful young woman recently shared her thoughts with me. She allowed me to hear the conversation in her head. Despite what her appearance and the people she hangs out with would have you believe, she is not what she appears. ReFreshing.
Ps Good Call On The Water...

You are not who you appear to be
You are cloaked in mystery
Smiling brightly outwardly
never wanting the world to really see.

You are not what you tell the world
You are nothing like those other dancing girls
You are stronger than you believe
Look at what you've already achieved.

You are nothing like those clowns
they always seem to mess around
But you are focused, this I see
You Are not what you appear to Be

You Are Not Just a "dumb party chick"
Your not out every night searching for d...
You are a little more refined I see
You Are Not What You Appear to Be

Like an Ocean you are deep
Overcoming odds, that's no small feat
Remember this thing I say to thee
You Are Not What You Appear To Be.

Thanks For Reading.
'til next time
Mark
http://www.MarkSparks.com

What You Believe You Achieve.

"The minute that we change our minds and stop giving power to the past, the past with its mistakes loses its power over us."

Stop beating yourself, and others up about past mistakes.
You know I was in a relationship once with an amazing woman. She had all the things I could hope for in a woman. Smart, sexy, great cook, great in bed, cool with my friends and she could throw down on the playing field too.
She also had a few things that I didn't want, baggage, from her past. Heavy bags. We didn't work out because of these bags. Not because of her but because of me. You see my conscious concluded many things because of her past and in doing so I gave that past power over our future.
Boy did I learn my lesson!

"You currently act as you currently believe."

It's simple yet so true. That one sentence describes the overall actions or lack thereof for any sane, logical, and for the sake of argument "normal" person.
Not convinced?
Read on.

You ever been on a balcony of a high rise and seen a bird fly off the ledge of the building. Did you jump off and try to fly? Seeing as your reading this I'd assume not. Why? Because you didn't believe you could fly (thank goodness.)
Let's take something much more realistic. I'll go back to relationships. In my relationship with this young woman I behaved as if I thought she was going to hurt me. I didn't have a logical, scientific study that said she would but we seldom have such logic for our illogical beliefs. Because of this belief I held I acted a certain way. I protected myself. Once I decided to look at this belief I had and ask a few very simple questions, I was able to let go of it and in that let go of the negative power it had over me. It was only when I believed that I could be happy that I was able to achieve happiness.

This isn't to say that from time to time on a rare occasion you won't stray from your embedded beliefs in your very temporary actions, but the majority of how you operate comes from what you believe.

Believe that.
'til next time,
Mark
http://www.MarkSparks.com

Trying Is Failing

Some people will read the title of this note and think "What's wrong with this guy?" but hear me out first.
When's the last time you "tried" to turn on a light? When's the last time you "tried" to eat some food? When's the last time you "tried" to write something down?

We use the word try a whole lot in our daily lives but think about this
"trying is undertaking a task with the intent to fail."
Pause.

You see people who do things do not try to do them, they do them. If you came to my house on a hot summer day, thirsty from your long walk up the hill in the hot sun and when you got to my house I directed you to the fridge and said "grab a drink" would you try to? No, you would open the fridge, grab an ice cold beverage, open and drink it.

Please understand, it's not the word alone that I'm talking about - it's the mentality that most of us have made synonymous with the word which I am addressing. It's a mentality, a belief that doesn't serve us in achieving that which we deserve and desire. It's a mentality that gives you a way out when things get hard. It's a mentality that turns "I must succeed" into "I hope I'll succeed" which is akin to saying "Maybe I'll succeed" which turns into " Maybe I'll succeed, if things fall in my lap and come easily, without much effort or sacrifice."
Not likely. Success takes sacrifice and it takes preparation and persistence. Dedication and commitment. When we set our mind to a goal that we truly believe we can achieve we work towards it and get it done. When you set out to try it means you don't believe you can reach that goal and guess what? Your right.

It's not all on us though. As kids we grew up and heard things like "just go out there and try", encouraging words spoken to us by people who cared about us. Sets us up for failure later. I much rather "go out there and have fun" or "go out there and give it your best"

I challenge you for the rest of this week to not approach life with a "go out there and try" attitude. Instead, I challenge you to "go out there and give it your best" and enjoy doing so.
Remember it was the little engine who could, not the little engine who tried.
"I think I can, I think I can." Cause whether you think you can or you can't, you are right.
Bless.
M.


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